By Séamus Sheedy
Traditional masculinity often emphasises strength, stoicism, and self-reliance, which can prevent men from addressing mental health struggles.
Societal expectations to “man up” lead many to internalise their emotions, disguising feelings of depression or anxiety from those around them. The stigma surrounding mental health remains a significant barrier, with 63% of Irish people believing treatment for mental health difficulties is seen as a sign of personal failure.
This stigma is dangerous. Men are at a higher risk of suicide, with many avoiding help until it’s too late. Depression can manifest differently in men, showing up as anger, irritability, or withdrawal from relationships and activities they once enjoyed. Often, they use escapist tactics, such as overworking, to avoid confronting their struggles.
Seeking help is vital. Early intervention can improve overall health, strengthen relationships, and dramatically enhance quality of life. It can also challenge outdated notions of masculinity, encouraging men to see vulnerability as a strength. Communities, families, and workplaces must create safe spaces for men to express themselves without judgment.
When seeking help from a Professional Counsellor or Psychotherapist, be sure to make sure the person is Accredited with a Professional Accreditation Body such as as the Irish Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (IACP) iacp.ie as they set standards in order to protect the public by setting and maintaining educational and professional standards.
On International Men’s Day, let’s commit to breaking the stigma and supporting men in prioritising their mental health.
I will finish with a quote:
“Love is supposed to be based on trust, and trust on
love, it’s something rare and beautiful when people can
confide in each other without fearing what the other
person will think.”
― E.A. Bucchianeri, Brushstrokes of a Gadfly
Séamus Sheedy is Accredited Psychotherapist with IACP in Private Practice in Tullamore County Offaly and Mullingar, County Westmeath and Past Chair of IACP.
